It’s not an angry outburst of an adolescent or a brand name, but a song of Madonna. The conflict between parents and their little ones has existed since time immemorial. It is as universal as sunshine or sleep. Hence, my kind request to both the adults and the adolescents who are reading – don’t play the fated victim role.
Parents love different things and children love things differently. There is nothing wrong in it. All it requires is acceptance and patience. The next time your child goes gaga over a song which you think is cacophony, grin and bear it. It’s the child’s choice. Children, if your mother is going to tell you the importance of eating leafy vegetables for the hundredth time, I know that it will be difficult to grin but at least do not growl or slam the door.
Neither of us was given a choice in choosing a parent or a child. So, let’s make the best out of what we have!!! The moment you accept that the other person is not like you, life will become different. What a boring world it would be, if all the off springs are going to be clones of their parents!!! Observe and find out the differences and have a no man’s land where you tread on egg shells without hurting or abusing the differences. After all, aren’t we family?! Don’t we love each other? We are interdependent on each other for emotional and economic support. So, definitely we would not like to see the other person hurt. THINK…..
In fact, if you observe keenly, some of the ‘constant instructions’ that the parents give are the ones that they had either not followed or started following verrrrrry late! It’s simple. They do not want you to miss the bus. It is their way of ‘equipping’ you for life, like adding a magnified price tag to each object in the shop! Jokes apart, remember that Love when it becomes too clawing and claustrophobic gets rechristened as Hate.
Acceptance will lead to mutual respect and a better living atmosphere. So live and let live. Love each other for what you are and not what you want them to be.
ACKNOWLEDGEMENT: No links and proofs. But I should thank Mahima for the article on parenting and another write up on why BTS - they inspired me to write this. Thank you.
Nirmala Anand
Beautiful post. I enjoyed every bit right from title to "thank you".
Wonderful post. It is true, the relationship that we share with our parents is all about giving and giving up. Our parents give up a lot of things in their lives as their top priority remains to nurture, love and care for us. So we children also have to try to give up our ego and anger and first listen to what they have in store for us.
It was blissful truly. Also, how can I post if I want to?
True story...if only we all could be non judgemental!! I liked the title too 😊